Ask Smart Questions- Get the Answers you Need

Posted on September 27, 2010 


photo by TJ Scenes

Humans can be unpredictable. Sometimes you think you know the answer to something, and other times you’re completely wrong. It’s weird too- sometimes you can find the answers you’re looking for by using reference tools for learning and sometimes it’s more of a social/psychological answer you can’t find within a book.

Also, it seems like it takes forever to get a question answered, and even then you’re not always satisfied with the answer you received. Does it seem like you still don’t know the true answer to what you were asking? If so, it’s possible that you weren’t asking the correct question in the correct way. It may be time to learn how to ask smart questions, so the answer you get will be the ones you truly need.

Sooooo… how do I learn what questions to ask?

When you come to someone with a question, consider all the issues that surround it. The only way to truly get a complete answer is to ask a thorough question where all of the variables have been considered. For example, be sure to look at:

There are other considerations, but those are a few to get you thinking about how you might ask – and someone might answer – a question. Most of the questions we ask, we don’t really need the answer to. We already know the answer, but we want people to confirm it for us. When they do, we feel better. When they don’t, we get upset and feel like we’re right back at square one.

Open up your eyes and listen as well… the answers are there

When you ask a question, do you actually listen to what the answer is that you’re given? A lot of people don’t. They just feel as though they are supposed to ask questions, but they don’t really care what the other person’s opinion is. While unfortunate, it’s quite common. You don’t need to be one of the people who do this. You can change.

After you’ve thought about your question and decided that it’s one you really do need to ask of others, think about the others in your life. Who would be most likely to know the answer? Whose opinion do you most respect? Is there someone in your circle of friends and family members who has experience with the subject? If you’re considering a divorce, don’t ask your happily-married sister. Ask your aunt who’s been married five times. She’ll have more knowledge of the procedure.

In short, people often feel as though they aren’t getting the right answers when, in truth, they’re getting the answers that are true for the people they’re asking the questions of. When you take the time to formulate the right question and make sure to ask the people who will have the most knowledge to impart to you, you’ll be much more likely to get the answers you need.


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